Tsering is a
young girl from Lamayuru whose family has shifted to Leh in search of better
prospects. Although she is handling the management of one of the high end
hotels in Leh, she wants to do more. She kept telling me that we, in the
cities, have it better because there are many choices.
It is
perhaps the same reason why I also shifted from the capital town of one of the
poorest states to Delhi after school and it is perhaps why so many people from
our country and other developing or under-developed countries have shifted to
relatively developed countries. For better prospects, for better lifestyles. In
fact, all of us are constantly moving towards that since ‘better’ is always
relative. So given the fact that we are surely hurtling towards some sort of
‘calamity’, can we really begrudge others from getting what we have got? Surely
everybody has a right to a better life. Even though I love to see pristine
nature and communities following traditional lifestyles, can I really begrudge
these mountain people better roads and amenities? Even though I know that like
the bad ecological footprints we have left in our pursuit of better prospects,
they eventually will too, can I really begrudge a village family wanting good
jobs for their children?
In all
honesty, I cannot. It is not fair until the last under-privileged person gets
to know what ‘better’ life is for him or herself. In fact the process of change
had started since humans made the first tools and the wheel and it will not
stop till this last person gets what he or she feels is a better prospect. We
might destroy ourselves as a specie in the process and might come back to
re-inhabit the planet but this will keep on happening endlessly. Because that’s
how we humans currently are.
That is, till
the time we can Redefine ourselves and lose our identity. The ‘I’ that is in
search of ‘better’ prospects, ‘better’ lifestyles because this ‘I’ is always
relative to ‘others’, always comparing. This ‘I’ always feels the need to stand
out – an independent woman, a feminist, a neo-liberal, a Buddhist, a minority, a
known poet, a famous writer, a comedian, an activist, a husband, a ceo, a
global strategist, a much loved speaker, a mountaineer, a trekker, a wildlife expert, a better house, many cars
and the list can go on.
What happens
when we stop listening to the artificial cacophony created by all these ‘I’s, the
cacophony that we are all so lost in? Perhaps then we can hear the sounds of
nature, our Earth and know that we are just one of many species. Perhaps we
need to learn to quieten down and listen before the Earth falls silent. Perhaps
we need to listen to ourselves more and know that there is really no existence
of an ‘I’. And perhaps then we can have
an Earth where we are we and not always searching for something or somebody ‘better’.
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Shikhshantar in Udaipur is an
Unlearning Centre. Founder / Head, Manish Jain likes to question everything
that we have currently chosen as society to follow. Even Maths. But he propagates
three key steps in order to change oneself – Scale down, Slow Down and Learn to
Listen.
5waraj is an organization based in
Delhi which likes looking back at our roots, our traditions and customs in
order to find solutions to current issues or lifestyles. One can find them at www.5waraj.in
or FB page with same name.
Such nice words. I wish everyone could feel that way.
ReplyDeletethanks jo! i also wish the same :-(
DeleteEnjoyed reading this piece, especially the introduction of the concept of 'I' and 'better' because many do not know what I wants and majority are trying to solve the dilemma of what better means.
ReplyDeletegarima!! thanks....yes, i keep wondering if people even want to think or not.
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